Calm in the Teenage Storm

Calm in the Teenage Storm

Tobi Blake

I don't have time to write a long, drawn out blog post about parenting today. I have seven children and one of them is making my life very difficult right now. They take turns, and this will pass. He's a great kid, he's been through a lot, and I love him. But in the difficult moments, those things are not easy to remember...

Those who follow me on social media know I've started the Miracle Morning. It has helped restore my sanity, especially being stuck indoors with seven children in this Phoenix heat all summer.

Affirmations are a big part of the Miracle Morning. These were new to me, and at first I felt really silly about it. But they really have helped me so much with my business as well as staying focussed on healthy eating.

As I struggle with my teen's defiance the past couple of weeks, I find myself wanting an affirmation to refer to when things feel impossible. I searched but couldn't find one that fit, so I created my own. I printed this out and keep it in my back pocket. I'm finding myself reading it several times a day, and as hokey as it sounds, it really helps. 

I am His Lighthouse
No matter how difficult it seems in this moment, I love my child and would do anything for him.
I put the health and wellness of my child above his impulsive wants.
As a parent, I do what's right as opposed to what's easy.
I cut the cord of unhealthy attachment.
I choose not to engage.
I am free from being affected by my child’s negativity.
I am not affected by defiance. I recognize it for what it is: temporary.
A few years from now, we will not remember this moment. But he will remember my love and patience through the difficult times.
I am the calm in his teenage storm. I am his lighthouse. The waves crash against me and I am unfazed. I will be calm. I will be strong.
I handle defiance with patience, calm, and a simple cause and effect approach. Actions, good and bad, yield consequences, good and bad.
Instead of engaging, I let him know the consequences of his actions when he’s calmed down. 
I love my child. I give him the gift of my patience and understanding through this difficult phase.
Feel free to copy and paste this, change the "he" to a "she" and make any other changes you want. I hope it helps you too! 

Tobi Blake

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